Anger is an emotion that we can never hide even though we wish we could, because of its impact on you and your surroundings. The evilest feature associated with anger is that it stops your brain's thinking for a while. All your senses revert to a state of hibernation like the Bears do during winters. You lose focus on who the person in front of you is and how your next action will affect her/him.
Now when we talk about anger, the first basic question we could ask ourselves is, why do we get angry in the first place? You woke up with a huge grin on your face, had a warm bath, wore your favorite shirt and are all set to go out and conquer the world. Right at that point, your mother accidentally spills a drop or two of your favorite chutney on your shirt, while handing you the breakfast. The fact that you woke up with a grin and were about to go rule the world is just lost in a quarter second. You have no control on what you are going to do next and the emotion that builds up inside you is anger. Going in a general sense, since it was your mother in that situation, all you can do is storm off from the house without eating breakfast.
The little example above has got many things to teach us and the fact that it is a common situation in everyone's lives makes it more empathetic. One, we are all humans and it takes a lot of control over your mind to not get angry. Two, we all wake up with a strong sense of enthusiasm everyday and it is those little things that happen to us that change our mood. Three, your mother makes the best breakfast and you know it. Four, in spite of being aware of the previous point, you chose not to eat breakfast because of your anger, which means indirectly you chose to starve yourself. Finally, the most important lesson that anger teaches us is that, it is you and you alone who is going to suffer because of your anger.
That was just a simple example where we all get angry unnecessarily. Other such situations include your daily encounters with people around you. But if it is the contact with people that is leading you to get angry, then there is no solution for your problem. Because, we cannot stay away from interacting with people and that is the prime need in a human's life.
So how do we reduce that anger inside us? Simple, do not take decisions and do not make statements when you are angry. It is said that, 'the ability to speak 6 languages is a great gift but the ability to stay calm and cool when angry is a greater gift'. However, it depends from one person to another and it is finally our own view of how one should deal with anger.
During one such Q/A session on twitter, long back in 2012, this is what Actor Siddharth had to say about how he dealt with anger. (My twitter handle was aB_writer_1 back then)
Now when we talk about anger, the first basic question we could ask ourselves is, why do we get angry in the first place? You woke up with a huge grin on your face, had a warm bath, wore your favorite shirt and are all set to go out and conquer the world. Right at that point, your mother accidentally spills a drop or two of your favorite chutney on your shirt, while handing you the breakfast. The fact that you woke up with a grin and were about to go rule the world is just lost in a quarter second. You have no control on what you are going to do next and the emotion that builds up inside you is anger. Going in a general sense, since it was your mother in that situation, all you can do is storm off from the house without eating breakfast.
The little example above has got many things to teach us and the fact that it is a common situation in everyone's lives makes it more empathetic. One, we are all humans and it takes a lot of control over your mind to not get angry. Two, we all wake up with a strong sense of enthusiasm everyday and it is those little things that happen to us that change our mood. Three, your mother makes the best breakfast and you know it. Four, in spite of being aware of the previous point, you chose not to eat breakfast because of your anger, which means indirectly you chose to starve yourself. Finally, the most important lesson that anger teaches us is that, it is you and you alone who is going to suffer because of your anger.
That was just a simple example where we all get angry unnecessarily. Other such situations include your daily encounters with people around you. But if it is the contact with people that is leading you to get angry, then there is no solution for your problem. Because, we cannot stay away from interacting with people and that is the prime need in a human's life.
So how do we reduce that anger inside us? Simple, do not take decisions and do not make statements when you are angry. It is said that, 'the ability to speak 6 languages is a great gift but the ability to stay calm and cool when angry is a greater gift'. However, it depends from one person to another and it is finally our own view of how one should deal with anger.
During one such Q/A session on twitter, long back in 2012, this is what Actor Siddharth had to say about how he dealt with anger. (My twitter handle was aB_writer_1 back then)
So the question for you to ask yourself is, how would you react and calm yourself when you are angry?
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